There are soooo many details, she sighed.
I spend hours making everything perfect - finding the perfect item in just the right budget for my clients.
Next thing you know it’s 5pm and I have to rush home to pick up my kids and make dinner.
The day is gone and I still have 3 other client projects to finish tonight.
I’m exhausted.
When is it good enough?
How do I choose what to do and what to let go?
My client had dark circles under her eyes.
She had been constantly working.
All she wanted was to enjoy picking up her kids at school instead of feeling like they were interrupting her work day.
Oh and maybe get to the gym a few days each week.
Does life ever feel like that for you?
My client has ADHD - what we call in coaching school the BIG brain kind.
A brain that loves to think about allofthethings.
To research the details.
Every single one.
But doesn’t ship until they’ve arrived to some magical land of perfect.
And since that land doesn’t exist, sometimes they don’t ship at all.
No wonder she was exhausted and overwhelmed and behind.
Together we dug into the why.
We explored which projects needed her maximum research big brain because in her industry some do or there are major liability issues.
But some don't.
And then we explored who’s she’s becoming.
We love to explore The Who in coaching.
Keith, Roger, Pete, John…
Oh wait - wrong who.
The who is the You.
You the client.
Who my client is becoming is a person who says “What’s the minimum required to get this out to my client?”
GASP the minimum!
You’re only going to give the minimum to your client?
Shouldn’t the client get ALL THE THINGS?
Trust me this client’s minimum is still most people’s middle.
She realized she needs a go to phrase that helps her pause before she tumbles down the research rabbit hole.
Printed big on her computer: What's the minimum?
Because the underlying struggle in ADHD (well one of them but a big one) is we skip the pause.
The pause is where the magic happens.
It’s the brief moment where we can choose.
That minimum phrase helps her remember to make a choice before getting wrapped up in all of the details.
She can decide if this project really requires that much work.
And then move forward.
She test ran this recently on a proposal and the client was still delighted.
And I’m happy to say she's making an arrangement where she can pick up her kids several days a week in a way she can enjoy without the work guilt, mom guilt, all the guilt.
What’s your minimum?
If you’re struggling to determine it, let’s have a Productivity Breakthrough: Fill this up
We’ll explore who you are now, who you want to become, and how we could get there together.
